tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9037356624179812135.post2998085277035949424..comments2007-12-01T23:45:58.744-08:00Comments on C'mon Jump in the Boat Fishies!: Stephaniehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/04523151039484276304noreply@blogger.comBlogger2125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9037356624179812135.post-18416190860564426042007-11-03T10:18:00.000-07:002007-11-03T10:18:00.000-07:00I wish I knew what to say Steph. It doesn't look ...I wish I knew what to say Steph. It doesn't look good. All I can suggest is that you two sit down and talk about whats going on. Not fight, but just tell Erich how this is making you feel and your fears. If ya need to talk, I'm here.*jen*https://www.blogger.com/profile/13958321631210715164noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9037356624179812135.post-32942207497203581062007-11-03T05:53:00.000-07:002007-11-03T05:53:00.000-07:00Deja Vu, yeah?Look, you know me. You know I am no...Deja Vu, yeah?<BR/><BR/>Look, you know me. You know I am not one to sugar coat things. This doesn't look good.<BR/><BR/>It isn't the talking to the ex, or the texting, or any of that. I think we have talked about this before: that is all very natural. Even some flirting is pretty normal. There were feelings there, and you dont just turn those off when you meet someone new. And guys like to know, or think, they could still have them, so they feel the waters every now and again. It doesn't mean they will do anything, or that they love you less.<BR/><BR/>However. Hiding shows intent. It does not show that "he thinks you would get mad" It shows that it is an offense worth getting mad over. Otherwise, he would not think you would get mad, or would not care, because he would explain it when you did. If he is hiding it from you, he knows he has done something wrong, and he is choosing to keep it up despite yoru feelings. This is not acceptable behavior in a relationship.<BR/><BR/>What I cannot speak to is what you should do. I know what I would do, but I am not you. I think I know what you will do, too, and I caution against it. Do not dwell on this: make a decision, and then make it happen. The worst thing you can do is brood, and pout, and make him feel worse and you feel worse. If you are sticking with him, then you need to give him teh genuine opportunity to redeem himself. If you are not, then get out and do not come back. <BR/><BR/>Thoughtful resolve will win the day. Good Luck.Joshuahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01675519557526291088noreply@blogger.com